I spend about the first third of the show reading the Apple Podcast review of the week, a new addition to the structure of the show which is really exciting to me. This week’s review was from @acornberries.
Then I had to respond to a question from a friend who listened to the episode titled “Yo! Real Talk: All we can do is our best” and wanted to know how to deal with people she loved, who were having a hard time taking her ‘no’, because they’ve been so used to getting ‘yes’ from her. My advice was for the friend to respectfully maintain their stance, turn the table around by making them think twice about their selfishness, and then go on to shine and hit their goals with the space that saying ‘no’ provides for you. When we are able to make our light shine, friends, families and even enemies will be drawn to us. “Arise and shine, for your light has come. Nations will come to your light, and kings to the brightness of your dawn”.
How did fitness get me fat? Strangely true, but a good thing can be bad for you when you do not know how to use it. That was my story with fitness a few years ago. I was so fixated on the idea of loading up myself with all the nutrient available to me, so every time I read or heard about a new fruit or produce that was rich in nutrients, I went for it. Imagine the chaos that was my refrigerator in as little as one week because the internet is filled with fresh, recycled, and many times misleading opinions about almost any subject. I went from stashing mushrooms, to kale, to broccoli, to kamu kamu, to goji berries, to cabbage, then bone broth, flax seed, quinoa, arugula, lemons, apples, chia, eggs, chicken; then I went to all things paleo, at a point I did all things kept, then I tried all things vegan, then the low/no carb, name it, I must have tried it.
A very expensive fixation. You know how expensive this things are, especially here in the United States, and for most of the produce, their shelve life was limited so I had to eat a lot of different things many times or they go to waste. There is so much confusion about what kind of diet or nutrition model is best for us as if there is a one-size-fits-all plan. People are passionate about what has worked for them but I needed to know what would work for me, however I was not giving my body a chance to adapt to the new patterns and food contents I was stuffing it with. No matter how nutritious my bowl of food is, the body can only absorb as much nutrient per time from every meal. The rest will be stored up as waste or fat in me. I was not eating junk, but junk was being stored inside me and this was getting me more and more frustrated because I was spending a lot, eating right, working out and still not making fitness progress. At this point, comparisons are inevitable and you just get more frustrated because you are making less progress than those who eat anything and could care less about my “fitness jargons”. I needed to repair my relationship with food and fitness.
I had to let myself know that I was enough. I am not in a competition with anybody, and even if I were preparing for a contest, it had to first be me vs. me because people have different genetic, anatomical, and physiological differences that could impact the outcomes of our fitness endeavors. We have to know what works for us and treat our body right so our body can serve us back. Fitness is not the end goal, it’s a vehicle that we need to help us live the life that we were called to live here on earth.
I had to give gratitude for my food. Praying over my meals made me conscious of what I was eating and know that this is a privilege for me. It is also a way of releasing positive affirmations about the result that the food will bring to me. I concentrate when I am eating, enjoying every morsel, tasting every ingredient, chewing and enjoying the process.
When I make a poor meal choice, I don’t beat myself up and try to fix it by stuffing myself up with more nutritious food. I have to learn to let things go and just make good choices for the here and now. This is not to excuse repetitive bad habits and decisions with food, this is more about not beating over moments of social or indulgent eating that might occur once in a while in our lives.
Food could also be social and in such settings, people could engage you in conversations about food which makes people uncomfortable about what they were eating. People walk up to me, look into my plate and want to know what this fitness coach is eating. Some start conversations about what they eat, how they learned it is more nutritious, and in my opinion, they are seeking self validation that what they are doing is good enough and probably better than mine. Lol. But the dinner table is not the place to talk about food or nutrition. Can we just cut the crap? Except it’s a food exhibition, I don’t think we should be talking about food and nutrition at a dinner party.
Two foundational principles of food that you can use to help you make better decisions about food are
Eat Clean. Not all things edible are food. Make sure you are eating food in its most natural form. Food with a clear and identifiable source that transcends labeling.
Care, but do not fuss over your food. Try to make sure that 80% of the time you are eating something as clean and authentic as you can, and let the times you deviate toward some less nutritional and more common food be 20% of the time.
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